"People often don't say what they mean and they often don't mean what they say."
Hey peeps. Take a look at the phrase above. Do you understand it? Probably after reading it the first time you might be confused, and you'd read it again to try and understand what it's trying to say. Well, here's our interpretation of the phrase.
Let's dissect the sentence, by taking a look at the first half:
"People often don't say what they mean..."
We don't say what we mean.
Random Reader: Is that it??
Okay, let's break it down for you. We spend most of our waking hours communicating with other human beings. When we want to convey a message, often there is meaning behind it. Say for example, when we want to let someone know we are sad. We say the words, "I feel sad."
But what if you don't want them to know how you're feeling?
Come on, you've been in this situation before, haven't you? Consider this situation...
You're angry at your sister. She was supposed to attend your play, but she never showed up. You call her a few times, but she doesn't seem to answer. The next time you meet her, you refuse to smile, or be yourself around her. She notices this. She asks, "Are you okay?"
What Would You Do?
You silently shake your head, incredulous that she has no idea what she did wrong. You want her to realize this, so you say in a rather offhand voice "Yeah, I'm fine."
Random Reader: This sounds an awful lot like a memory--
FINE, yes, I went through this. You happy?
The point is, more often than not, we tend to say things which do not reflect what we mean.
"You okay?"
"Are you sad?"
It often takes a lot of coaxing for us to say what we mean. To quote Justin Bieber,
"...and they often don't mean what they say."
Sometimes people say things they don't mean. Most of the time it's when the person is in a fit of anger, which can easily cloud our judgement. For example, two friends, A and B, are arguing with each other about money. Out of nowhere, A calls B a 'slut', which causes B to become even angrier. But the moment A says it, she knows she doesn't mean it. Alas, the word is already out of her mouth, and although she said it, she didn't mean it.
When we take the whole phrase into consideration, we see that miscommunication is the main key problem, whether it is not saying what you mean, or not meaning what you said. This happens frequently in everyone's lives, whether they like it or not. However, this does not mean it can't be avoided. We need to be truthful when conveying our feelings to others, but we should also not let our feelings get the best of us.
But hey, that's just our opinion ;)
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